A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH
AND / OR
TO MY DAUGHTERS
WITH LOVE
Sex is a joy of life. The physical interaction between two loving people is one of the most precious and meaningful experiences of life. It is the ultimate sharing between two people. It is an extreme pleasure and once experienced never forgotten.
Sex is a potential cause of death. The sexually transmitted disease HIV / AIDS is incurable and it is not just dying. It is the most gruesome, horrible, embarrassing, cruel, slow and heart wrenching type of death. It is a gradual deterioration of each and every part of your body, with no surprise endings. You die.
No man should ever ejaculate without wearing a condom. (Except, after marriage and only with his spouse.)
There is more to sexual pleasure than intercourse. Sexual pleasure is nothing new. The pursuit of this pleasure is centuries old and there are volumes and volumes of books. There is a zillion dollar industry today selling sexual satisfaction without intercourse. It is not necessary to indulge in intercourse to achieve sexual pleasure.
Both the male and the female experience orgasm. It is a simple and fast matter for the male. Ejaculation, especially in younger men, takes a matter of minutes and often only seconds! You, the female will and do take longer. I’ll not teach you how this occurs or what must be done but know that you are seeking orgasm, too. It will take longer….up to 30 minutes is NOT uncommon. A caring and loving sexual partner will help you to achieve orgasm.
Sex is the beginning of life. You were created by the act of intercourse and you will most likely create another life. The act has a purpose. I believe God made this act enjoyable so that we would multiply. We are supposed to reproduce. It is right and natural. When YOU decide such.
The male animal has an instinctive urge to procreate. Given half a chance, the animal can emerge and force their desire. Be careful where you go, with whom you are and where you might wind up. Be careful what messages you send, voluntary and involuntary. As a rule the male is the stronger of the species and can overpower you.
Actions speak louder than words. When “sizing up” a male, pay attention to how he behaves and acts, especially when you are with him and his friends. Males, when alone and thinking there is a chance for an ejaculation will lie, cheat and steal.
Before you ever decide to share yourself with a man, know the man, like the man, perhaps love the man. Do not make this decision in the “heat of the moment”.
Abstinence is the best defense. Do not engage in sexual activity unless and until you have selected your partner for life. And smoking is bad for you too. And so is drinking and driving while intoxicated, and so are a million other things. And yet we humans do them anyway. If you can abstain, be not ashamed. If you are like the rest of us, be smart. Learn the alternatives to intercourse. Minimize your risk. Know who your partners are. Wear condoms. You carry them too! No single male should ever ejaculate without a condom.
There are many other birth control devices beyond condoms. Use them. We can and will help you with this decision, if you want. You also have a doctor who can help you with this matter and it will be 100% confidential.
Beware of peer pressure. There is most times a large difference between what people say they do and what they really do. Don’t believe what others say. There is a wide vocabulary of misleading and ambiguous words and phrases that can mean anything from long hard kisses to intercourse.
Sex is the beginning of life. The act of intercourse can and does create a child. It is possible and very likely that the first time can and will cause this miracle. Before you ever permit a male to ejaculate inside of you, be prepared for motherhood. You will be pregnant for 9 months and then you will be at your child’s beck and call for 24 hours each and every day for the next 24 years! Getting pregnant is and should be a large decision.
Abortion is the act of killing a baby during the mother’s pregnancy. Whether it is legal or illegal, this is an option. Always has been and always will. Men do not have an opinion in this matter. Men can tell you what they think, but the final decision rests with only the mother. You my dear must make this decision…. no one else. Abortion is not a means of birth control. It is a means to prevent an unwanted situation. It can never be taken lightly, and if you ever have to make this decision, it will be difficult and rest heavy on your heart forever.
Males can and do walk away from babies. In divorce decisions, custody of the child 99% of the time goes to the mother. A baby is the mother’s responsibility. If you give birth, the responsibility will never leave you my daughter. If you bring a baby into the world, you must be ready willing and able to raise it!
Sex is physical and mental, too. If you participate in a male’s ejaculation, you have sent a powerful message to that male. Without words you have told him that you are willing to share your most secret and intimate of thoughts. You have told him that you have selected him above all others as being special. If you do it once, he can assume you will do it again and maybe more next time. If you start down this path with a male, discuss as soon as possible as to where it is headed. He has told you nothing. Males are interested primarily in the ejaculation. There are exceptions and I hope you can and will find these exceptional males.
At some point you will find a partner for life. With this person, after testing each other to know that you are both medically healthy, the act of sex is elevated to lovemaking. Now truly you and your partner are ready willing and able to share the most intimate of your thoughts dreams, and desires. With this person you have the partner to build a life of fun and challenge, not the least of which will be babies. Together you can be parents. Being a single parent is perhaps the most difficult of ways to go through life. A baby must be raised by 2 parents.
Don’t get married just to have sex.
Your mother and I are on your side .... all the time. No matter what happens, we can and will do everything we can to help you. Whatever questions you have, whatever needs to be done, you can trust and count on our help. Always and forever.
I hope that you find a wonderful husband with which to go through life. I hope that you never have babies until you find this person. And even if you never do find this person, I hope you do find and enjoy the pleasures of sex.
